Gift Giving Intervention
[This is totally how I look handing over presents. I always keep a blue sky backdrop on my person to create a floating sensation and mystical aura. This way it doesn't matter if your gift is so disappointing that it makes a pair of socks look like diamond earrings.]
Father’s Day is coming up (Sunday, June 17th). You are welcome for the reminder. My goal is to send a gift that actually arrives at my parent’s doorstep on time. Somehow I always seem to butcher timing, only to play it off by cursing the long gooey trail left by snail mail. It never fails. At least I can proudly say that the gifts themselves now always outshine the belated-ness. I am what you would call a recovered bad gift-giver.
I haven’t spoken of my friend Booger in a while, but my road to revival is really all thanks to her. It was Christmas of 2010 when I hit rock bottom. I was graduating college a week or so before the actual holiday, and my whole family was in town to celebrate a little bit of both occasions, including Booger. After the ceremony, we all went back to my apartment to exchange some presents. I don’t remember who went first in the swap-fest, but what happened next lead to a much needed self intervention.
Booger has always been the most creative and thoughtful present giver ever. Ever. So when I began scouring the gift bag she brought for me, I knew I would find nothing but pure gift gold. Everything she has ever given me has been something that I would never find on my own, something I don’t know I need but do, and if it has multiple gift layers, they all correspond and compliment each other better than popcorn and M&Ms. If you have never consumed this combination, I feel sorry for you. Moving on…
First, I drew from the bag a coffee mug that displayed “Crazy Cat Lady” across the side. Funny. Then, a classic black pencil skirt to start my new wardrobe as a working business woman. Practical . Next, a lunch bag and an umbrella. Clever and Cute. There were also a few other equally as enviable items. If there were judges around, they would have given an impressed standing ovation for such perfect delivery. Then, there was my gift to her.
She had been complaining to me that she needed a Ipod hooker upper thingy for quite some time. So, that is exactly what I bought her. It wasn’t even wrapped when I handed it over. I am hanging my head in shame as I recount this eye-opening exchange. On top of that, the thing didn’t even end up working properly. Okay, it didn’t work at all. I had accomplished the ultimate gifting fail, and it wasn’t the first time. I’d say I get it from my dad who thinks wrapped batteries are acceptable and exciting presents, but like I said, Father’s Day is near. Too near for that kind of finger-pointing.
It was in that moment that I devoted myself to the road of recovery. I started by really forcing myself to think. What are some things going on in the person’s life for which I am buying (or making!) the gift. What could help make their life easier? What is something they have been wanting, that I can use as an idea base. How can I add an element of surprise? What are some unique places to shop for these things? From there, I began taking advantage of online shopping and dare I say it… sifting through Pinterest for ideas.
Before I knew it I was buying presents at random just for the hell of it. But not only for that, also for the rush it gave me to know that the recipients of my gifts understood they came from a place of deep gratitude for their presence in my life and resulted from true thoughtfulness. I no longer treat gift giving as careless attempt at placation or simply a duty. Gift giving is the main reward itself, so make it count.
Exhibit A: Mother’s Day gift: Here you see a bath caddy complete with a book/Ipad/Kindle/whatever stand, and a wine glass and candle holder. Judging from the picture she sent me shortly after it arrived (finally), I think she put it to good use. Go ahead, you can steal my idea for Father’s Day. Wait… *facepalm*. Dad’s are into bubble baths too, right?
Thank you Boog for inspiring me with how much you care and for showing it.
What kind of gift giver are you? What is the worst give you’ve given/received. What are some of the best?
- Father’s Day Gifts to Make or to Buy (faithfulprovisions.com)
- Giving The Ideal Gift With Men’s Cologne Gift Sets (ruralstops.blogspot.com)
- 10 Things to do for Dad this Father’s Day (babyguardian.wordpress.com)
- The Gifts We Keep On Giving (psychologicalscience.org)
- An argument for giving gift cards (christianpf.com)
Posted on June 6, 2012, in Adventures, Experiments, Home, Inspirational and tagged 25tofly, Becca Cord, christmas, Father's Day, Gift, gift ideas, graduation, Holidays, Home, humor, ideas, intervention, life, presents, wrapping paper. Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.